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Ko taku tama 10-tau kua timata te tipu.I tetahi wa ka kohia e au ona kakahu, ka hoatu ranei he maha o nga mea ki a ia mai i taku whanaunga, engari he tino pirangi ia ki te ahua, he tino hauhautanga inaianei.I tua atu i te noho tahi, he rawe to maua.I tenei wa, kaore koe e whakaaetia ki te whakamahi i te ruma kakahu.Ina korero ahau ki a ia he aha te rahi o nga kakahu hei hoko, kare ia e whakapono ki ahau!He tangata potiki ia, e pirangi ana ahau ko au te potiki, ka pouri ia ina korero ana ahau ki a ia he tangata nui ake i tera i ngana ki te kowhiri.Kei te pirangi ia ki nga kakahu iti rawa atu… Engari 10 noa iho ona tau inaianei, kaore e pai nga kakahu o nga tamariki iti rawa.I to matou taenga ki te kainga, ka mau ia ki te rahi i whiriwhiria e au, he pai ki ahau, engari i nga wa katoa he tangata kino ahau, ka kore ahau e whakaae ki te iti, ka noho marere tonu i roto i te toa.Mena he iti rawa te rahi e mau ana koe me te iti rawa, he aha i rereke ai te rahi i roto i te toa?He aha taku korero ki te whakatau i tenei tautohetohe me te kore e tukino ia ia?He aha ia i tohe ai kia mau kakahu iti?
Kua whakaaro koe ki te hoko kakahu ake i runga ipurangi?I te mea kaore e taea e to tama te whakamatau i nga kakahu i roto i te rūma raka i te tau 2020, te ahua nei ka taea e koe te karo i te whakakitenga me te aukati a te iwi, ahakoa ko te tikanga ka ngaro koe i etahi hoko kakahu pai.Ko te tikanga mo te whakahoki mai i te maha o nga toa ipurangi me te hoko kia rua noa iho o ia tarau, kotahi te rahi iti, katahi ka whakahokia mai nga tarau i te wa o te hoko.Ka taea te whakatau ngawari tenei raruraru.Ma te kore e pai ki te whakaae he pai ake te hunga pāpāho.(Ko tetahi atu otinga: tono noa i te hunga pāpāho ka tapahia te tapanga i mua i tana kitenga.)
E whakaae ana ahau ko te tamaiti 10 tau te pakeke he kaha ake te piri o te ngakau i to ona hoa teina.Ki taku whakaaro karekau koe e mate wawe ki te tirotiro i to tamaiti he mate kai, he mate kino ranei o te tinana, engari ka aro nui ahau ki ona kare-a-roto me te korero mo tona tinana i te timatanga o te taimatanga, me te whakaatu tonu i te pouri ki a ia. te tinana me te whaiaro Ko te rereketanga i waenga i nga whakaaro he mea tika kia korero tahi me te kaiakiko.
Teie râ, no to ’na mana‘o etaeta, e rave rahi mau u‘i o te mau metua i faatitiaifaro i te fifi rahi o te tamarii na roto i na parau tahutahu e maha: “E paari oe.”I nga wa katoa ka puta mai tenei raru, ka kii ahau kia tohatoha koe.
Ki te whakaaro ki nga mea katoa e pa ana ki te ao, ehara tenei i te mea tino awangawanga, engari kei te whakapau kaha matou ki te whai whakaaro ki te take mokowhiti me te peepi hou.Kei te titiro whakamua maua ko taku tane mo ta maua tamaiti tuarua hei te Maehe.He tama ta maua e 2 tau te pakeke, ka rua me te hawhe te pakeke ina tae mai te pepi hou.E rua nga rūma o to matou whare i te papa tuarua, ka mutu ka noho ko tetahi ruma o nga tamariki.Ko te wharepaku o nga tamariki kei te papa tuarua, i te taha o te ruma o taku tama.Na, ko ta maua tama kei roto i te ruma i to taha taha.Tata ki te ono marama i muri i te whanautanga, ka noho te peepi hou ki roto i to maatau ruma, engari he aha te whakautu pai ki to whakaaro?Ka whakangungu ta maua tama ina puta te peepi i to ruuma, ki te nekehia ia ki te ruuma o runga, me peia e ia nga arawhata pari kia haere ki te wharepaku i te po.I tetahi atu taha, ki te tuu tatou i te peepi hou ki roto i te tuanui, ka whangai tatou ki runga.Ka hoatu e matou te peepi ki roto i te tuanui kia pakeke ra ano taku tama, ka tino whiwhi whakangungu poti?Kei te awangawanga ahau mo nga huringa nui ka nui haere te ruuma, engari e hiahia ana ahau kia noho taku tamaiti matamua ki te ruuma tuanui mo te wa roa.I te wa roa, he aha to whakaaro ko te otinga pai?
Aue, he tino ngawari.Whakanohoia te pepi ki roto i te tuanui.Ka mihi koe mo te iti o te tawhiti, ka koa to tama kare he huringa nui i roto i tona oranga e tata ana te huri.Ko te hurihanga i roto i nga tau torutoru ka ngawari, na te mea ka riro i te peepi te moenga o te tuakana me te ruuma o te tuakana, ko te tuakana ka whai waahi ki runga ake, ka ata whakatikatikahia kia whakaata i ana hiahia, ka whakakakahu ia ia. me te moenga kotahi nui me te ataahua.
Tata ki te kotahi tau ki muri, i homai e te whanau o taku tane he keemu pakupaku hei koha mo nga tamariki nohinohi.Ko taku tumanako he nui nga moni i pau i a raatau.I maaharahara matou mo te takahi tikanga, ka whakatau matou ki te penapena i muri i nga korerorero maha.He kaha taatau ki te korero mo te kaikiri ki nga tamariki, he tamariki rawa ratou ki te mohio he aha tatou i kore ai e pai ki nga koha.Ko taku whaea tonu te korero mai ki a au ka hoatu e koe he koha ki tetahi, ko tana hiahia me te tono kino.Heoi ano, ko taku kuia o te kawanatanga karekau e uru ki tenei uara.Mo te tau kua hipa, kua patai ia ki taku tane he aha te take kaore i roto i nga whakaahua ka tukuna e matou.Ko taku tane te korero i mua i tenei take ma te kii kaore i te nui te waahi, tera pea te otinga pai.
Heoi, kua nuku matou, kei te waahi inaianei-kei te tohe ia ki te whawhai mo te take kaore ano matou kia whakatu.Kei te ohooho tonu taku hungawai ki tana mahi kaikiri, ahakoa e whakapono ana ahau kei te mau katoa tatou ki nga whakapono kaikiri, me whakapau kaha ki te hinga i enei whakapono.Kua rongo au i tana whaanui mo au, ahakoa karekau he whakamarama marama.I taua wa, i tino whakatenatena ahau ia ia ki te whakaaro ki ana korero, he ahua pohehe nei ia.Engari ki taku whakaaro he paku rereke te ahuatanga.I homai e ia ki a matou etahi taonga i whakaaro ia he ataahua.Ka taea e koe te whakaaro he huarahi hei whakaoti i tenei raru me te pupuri tonu i to maatau hononga ki a ia?
Ko te tikanga, kei a koe te tika ki te korero ki to whaea kaore koe i makona ki te taonga i hoatu e ia ki to tamaiti.Ko te mea pai, me noho tau ki waenga i a korua kia ngawari ai te korero i waenga i nga taha e rua me te kore he.Ka kii pea koe, “E mohio ana koe, kua panuihia e au etahi pukapuka, kare noa matou e pai ki te whakatakoto pepa tuhipoka ki roto i te whare na te mea ka whakakorea te tikanga o nga kowhatu aa-ahua-kore-maamaa kua whakataha”.Ka korero pea koe i tetahi kaituhi tangata whenua Ko te tuhinga e whakamarama ana te nui o te kino o tenei takahi ahurea ahakoa i roto i nga waahi ahua kino penei i nga taonga taakaro a nga tamariki.
Ko te mea pono, i taea e koe te korero ki to hungawai i to raatau hoatutanga ki a koe i te tau ki muri.Ko taku tumanako kei a koe!He maamaa ake tera.Inaianei kua kotahi tau koe ki te karo i tana tono koha hei takaro ma ana mokopuna.Ki taku whakaaro, he tino whaitake enei tono mena ehara i te tono a to whaea.Ko wai te kuia kare e pirangi ki te kite i aua whakaahua?Kua mau to tane i roto i te korero teka i waenga i te whaea e mamae ana te ngakau me te wahine kaore i te pai ki tona whaea na te mea kaore i te nui te waahi mo nga tohutohu, inaianei kei te noho koe ki tetahi waahi nui ake, kua kitea te teka. .
E akiaki ana ahau ki a koe ki te korero ki to hungawai i te pono mo Tippi ma te marama me te atawhai.Ko te huarahi pai ko te korero ki a ia me te whakatau i te haerenga ka tino haere koe i etahi wa, mai i te whakaaro ko nga taonga taakaro penei i nga taakaro Tippi kaore he kino ki te mohio he whakaaro kino tena, kaua e rite ki nga tangata marama katoa. ia.Mena karekau he tino tauira o te kare me te mahi kino i roto i to reta, ko to hungawai he ahua tino reka, he tino kaumātua noa, ahakoa kaore pea i te pai ki to whaea ake, engari kaua e whakaaehia te maimoatanga niho. .Ko to reta e whakaatu ana kei te hiahia koe ki te hoatu ki a ia.
Me pehea koe e pa ana ki o ngakau pouri tonu, te riri, me etahi atu wheako kino ki to tamaiti?Ka mahi tonu maua ko taku tane ki te kainga, karekau he awhina ki te tiaki i nga tamariki, no reira ka taea e ta maua tamaiti 6 tau te whakangahau mo etahi haora i ia wa.He tino whakapai ake tenei ahuatanga hou i roto i nga marama tuatahi o taku noho ki te kainga, i a au e ngana ana ki te tono i taku aro me tana tuke e tarewa ana.Kaore ia i tino tiaki i a ia ano - ka titiro ahau ki a ia ia 20 meneti neke atu ranei (mehemea ka noho wahangu tonu ia), a he 1:1 te waa i te ra.Ka korero ia ki a ia ano, ka takaro ki nga taonga taakaro, ka tuhi pikitia, ka tapahia te pepa kia kotahi miriona nga wahanga, ka whakamahia e ia he maha nga roera riipene.He mea whakamiharo.Engari he maha ano nga mea e kore e tika kia mahia e ia: peita i runga i nga pakitara, pania etahi momo kapia (kapia, toothpaste, hand sanitizer, shampoo, tae noa ki te pounamu whakamarumaru ra) i runga i nga waahi katoa e pa ana, tapahia O ake makawe, kuti ona kakahu. , waiho nga roimata mai i nga tipu, etc.
Ka kite ahau, he hoha ia.Ka ngana ahau ki te whakarere i enei mea iti, ma ia e awhina ki te horoi i te maru, me te whakatika i a ia ina mahi ana ia i tetahi mea tino moumou, kino ranei.I ngana ahau ki te whakamarama ake i aku tumanako ka hoatu ki a ia nga huarahi kua whakaaetia mo te whakama, te whakamatautau me te whakangaro.Whakapono mai ki ahau, kei te mohio ahau he ahua kino tenei - karekau nga kaitoi hou / anarchists / apiha o te hepohepo e hiahia ana kia puta te hepohepo kua whakaaetia.I roto i te tātaritanga whakamutunga, ko te ahua kua pumau tonu te whanaungatanga i waenganui i a tatou, penei, kao, kaua e pera, kaua e horoi inaianei, tena koa kaua e whakangaro, kaua e pera.I muri mai, ka titiro tonu ia ki ahau, me te mea kei te whakangaro ahau i ana waahi katoa mo te hari i te ao.He kino ahau, ano he rakau i roto i te paru, kua hoha ahau.awhinatia ahau!
He tau uaua tenei tau mo te katoa, engari he tau tino whakamataku mo nga matua o nga tamariki nohinohi.He pakeke rawa aku tamariki ko te whakahianga i a ratou ano i roto i te ruuma ko te "ka mura ki runga i a Reddit" hei utu mo te "kapi i te pakitara o te ra"-he raruraru tonu tenei, engari he iti ake te raruraru.
Ki taku whakaaro kei te tino whakahawea to tamaiti 6-tau ki te "Tane" ka whakakorea e ia tetahi "ara kino kua whakaaetia", engari ki taku whakaaro kei a koe he matapae.Ko te nuinga o nga tamariki 6 tau te pakeke karekau e raru na te mea he Antifa ratou.I kii koe, kei te rangirua ratou na te mea he hoha.Ka taea hoki te whakakotahi i etahi waa me nga waahi kua whakamanahia kia noho hepohepo hei oranga me te kore e kati.Ka whakaaro pea koe ki te whakatakoto i tetahi teepu parapara i roto i tona rūma kua ara ake nga tapa, ki te peita ranei i ona pakitara ki te peita papamahi, ki te uhi ranei i te papa kaukau ki te tauera me te panui i ia ra Ka takaro i te wai i te 2 pm.
I te wa e pouri ana ou matua penei i a koe, ka whakatika katoa o taunekeneke.Engari e hiahia ana ahau ki te whakamahara ki a koe ehara tenei i te mea, ko te tikanga, ko te hunga kua mau ki roto i to ngakau, engari e tino mohio ana ahau ko te wa kotahi o te ra ehara i te kanga noa.He nui te aroha me te tautoko i a koe ki te kaitoi korero mokowhiti, ka kitea i roto i tana pikitia koiora kua tohua e Oscar.
Tetahi mea whakamutunga: I korero koe i mahi tahi korua ko to tane i te kainga, engari ka ngaro atu ia i o reta e toe ana.Kei te tino mohio ahau ka paopao ia i tona mahunga ia 20 meneti kia kore ai e hipokina te ngeru ki te whakakao hu, tika?Ki te kore, tena koa whakamaumahara ki a ia kaore e tika kia noho ko koe anake te tangata e whakahe ana i a Little Jackson mo te hipoki i te duvet ki te ketchup, me kore ko koe anake te tangata e whakaaro ana me pehea te noho harikoa o to tamahine.
I roto i te podcast matua a Slate "Kei te whawhai a Mama raua ko Papa," i whakautua e Abby Wambach te pakiwaitara whutupaoro a Abby Wambach i tetahi patai a nga maatua o tetahi tamaiti 4-tau te pakeke "he tino kaha ki te takaro".He tino ngakau nui ki nga mahi hakinakina.
"Ki taku whakaaro ka wehe nga tamariki i te papa whutupaoro, e toru nga mea ka tohatohahia e matou ki a ratou.Tuatahi: He pai ki ahau te matakitaki i a koe e takaro ana.Wā.Tuarua: Kei te pehea koe?Kei te pehea koe i reira?Tuatoru: Ko nga mea i akohia e koe i tenei ra Ko nga mea kaore koe i mohio i mua?Koia tena.Whai muri i te keemu whutupaoro, me korero noa koe ki o tamariki, na te mea tera ano etahi atu mea.Kei te korero autaki koe ki a raatau ko to aroha kei runga i te pai, i te kino ranei.Hurorirori kau i te marae.Ko te katoa o nga mahi hakinakina kei te hee, kei te noho pai, kei te he, kei te noho pai."
Ki te whiwhi whakautu katoa a Wambach, whakarongo ki nga waahanga hou ka ohauru ki te "Kei te Whawhai a Mama raua ko Papa" ahakoa ka whakarongo koe ki te podcast.
Ka nui ake nga tohutohu a nga matua mo nga mema o Slate Plus ia wiki.Ka awhina ano ratou ki te tautoko i nga korero a Slate.
Kua pau nga tuhinga kore utu.Hono atu ki a Slate Plus ki te panui tonu, ka whai waahi mutunga kore koe ki a maatau mahi katoa me te tautoko i te purongo motuhake a Slate.Ka taea e koe te whakakore i nga wa katoa.
He mea whakaputa a Slate e te Rōpū Slate o Graham Holdings Company.Nga ihirangi katoa ©2020 Slate Group LLC.mana katoa.
Ka whakawhirinaki a Slate ki nga panui hei tautoko i a maatau korero.Mena ka whakanuia e koe a maatau mahi, tena koa monohia to aukati panui.
Hono atu ki a Slate Plus, ka tautoko koe i a maatau mahi ka whiwhi ihirangi motuhake.A e kore koe e kite ano i tenei karere.
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